Miss it 
Single life is crap! 
After a while!
Underrated big time, though the quietness of never arguing is nice! 
Having someone to share with is great, as I say… apart from the hassle side of relationships! 
It’s the simple things people tend to miss, not what people presume, sex… sex itself is way over rated in many ways… love on the other hand is underrated, alot.
Strange us lot! 
I digress…
Relationships, oddly unique
Hoping this post doesn’t ruin any for me!
“Growth in wisdom may be exactly measured by decrease in bitterness.” ~Friedrich Nietzsche
Relationships are funny things, every single one is unique… yet in a sense relationships are one of the worse things we can be in unless it’s really worth it, in my own opinion honestly I think women tend to play head games too much and deliberately, not all of them maybe, but most, it’s like a mindset, yet those who do… they enjoy it… and that’s something most of us men, if we are honest, ok, I mean me at least… can’t be doing with, it’s pointless and does nothing but harm, which is why I have not bothered so much, I’d rather have a bloody migraine!
I think Bob has a point!
It’s not a battle of the sexes post here mind… at all!
If I wanted a battle of the sexes I’d already be in a relationship… a meaningless one at that! ~ A half hearted one is not worth bothering with.
Baggage is an issue… no, not being insulting on “big ladies” but baggage as in hassle, one of the problems I see and experience is the fact some ladies always tend to move from one relationship to another without a breather in between, that always has problems with baggage from the ended relationship dumped onto the new one…
Sadly, and it’s something I can never be doing with…
If you just come out of a relationship, do you really need to rush into another?
It’s lonely though
So you don’t “like being alone” you say, fair enough but are you really alone? Considering the baggage you have about the last relationship?
Thought not, so why go into new relationship with the risk of three people being in it? I have been through that and it will never happen again, she screwed up big time but it taught me a heckava lot!
Far better to work on winning the ex back if you are gonna spend any mental and emotional energy on them at all, seriously, don’t insult the new relationship before it’s even started!
Something alot more men deal with between relationships is that baggage in my opinion, getting rid of it first is the way to do it, at least that’s always been the case with me, I am a man ffs!
The break is better for all concerned in my eyes.
Being alone doesn’t mean being lonely but it does mean a chance to think about what’s really wanted out of a relationship, which is why I think a relationship has a better chance when those concerned have been single longer than 5 bloody minutes, I have, so I am ready for it!
The one that I want, or don’t
Do any of us really know what we want? What happens is not usually what we expect, it rarely happens how we want either, then again… knowing what I don’t want helps, that’s a good place to start.
Not more of the same, for a start… pointless when I know what can happen and often does, maybe it’s culture, mindset, I don’t know.
Knowing what you don’t want and getting what you do want is a different matter though eh… *Sigh, stepping back into that stupid fecking dating game! … Game, game?! … yeah, that may be the problem with some people, they treat it like one!
What I don’t want is hassle and mind games and lies, dishonesty, materialistic divas, cheats, you know, none of that crap… not much different to many others, so why is there so much of what we don’t want out there?
Maybe it’s the fact that self centred people more often than not create one sided relationships… best avoided!
Love is…
Love and all that it brings and being happy matters, not what you own, want, desire in material, though any millionaire single ladies out there can contact me anytime!
Love… it’s fleeting, like youth, gotta grab it with both hands and make the best of it while you have it, live it… don’t you agree?
Age is just a number but it matters in some ways and time stops for no-one which is why youth is so fleeting, to everyone but youth… who knew then? I never!
Love is underrated, big time.
But…
I think I just need to get laid. Just joking… well
Love of culture, culture of love
We are different from others, they from us, as well as from each other, upbringing and culture makes a difference whether we agree/like it or not, different values, different levels of respect of different things, different relationship values… just different.
Which is interesting to me in many ways… 
Holiday’s at home are great but not quite like seeing and living another culture is it?
Why would having a relationship with a foreign person be any different?
They not only live differently but think differently too, which is always going to be good, never going to be boring, unless you don’t put any effort in, that’s for sure.
Personally I’d like to meet someone from overseas… if it happens, it happens, if not, so be it, I got the room here.
Not to say I don’t want a relationship with an English lady, just that they ain’t that special. :P
If it doesn’t happen, so be it, happiness isn’t relying on someone else to be delivered.
Hope it does though and sooner than later!
Grab the button.
I think what your saying Rob has a fair amount of truth to it, but I also feel that some of it is a bit biased.. I agree with the “some ladies always tend to move from one relationship to another without a breather in between, that always has problems with baggage from the ended relationship dumped onto the new one” as I have been there myself and yes at the start bought turmoil to the relationship, but I worked on it, left it behind and moved forward.
I don’t agree that the majority of women play mind games, I’m sure there are plenty out there that do, but then so do men sometimes. In my case it was the guy, possible not the kind of games you are referring to but in my case it was suppressing my personality and taking complete control over me (over the course of 8 years).
I was no longer able to think for myself and it took me a very long time to break free, but maybe that’s my flaw..a lack of self worth and low self esteem.
Love is underrated as you say, the people who don’t have it yearn for it, the people who do have it, don’t appreciate it fully until they either lose it or come close. Some people spend a whole lifetime searching for that one person who makes them feel complete, where as some people never find it.
Some days I love my partner more than others, I can’t explain it and its probably hormones or something stupid, but that’s how I feel. I guess with relationships – they are never easy, you have to work for it.
I do think that this is a very interesting article, though I’m sure Rob you will get some complaints as always
Twitter: robsellen
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Hi Michelle.
Thanks for that comment, glad you are happy now, that’s what matters.
I don’t expect you to agree with everything I say, though I have to say…
I been out with more ladies than you have I bet
the majority from MY experience is they do play games, the fact many of my mates have said it too means it’s not so uncommon.
It’s happened far to often for me to ignore or dismiss it, sadly.
Complaints? As always…? I never get them?! Oh wait, you mean regarding the post here!?
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Twitter: sylvwebster
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This is an interesting article Rob and I suppose, being of a different generation, I am probably not the best qualified to comment on your thoughts.
At the risk of a lot of arguments, I do feel that my generation has a lot to answer for regarding the behaviour of our children. In the 1950s/1960s life suddenly took off at a great speed. Rock’n'Roll, drugs, flower power and ‘free love’ came into being – fortunately not all of us took to these things lightly as some of us had been brought up to be ‘decent’ (if that’s the right word) young people. I know, personally, that my family frowned deeply on such activities and rather than upset our parents we ‘behaved’ ourselves. Whether we missed out on anything great I don’t know, but I do know that I was lucky enough to find true happiness in my life. I am, without a doubt, one of the lucky ones.
I would say to you Rob, don’t go looking for love, it will find you when both you and it are ready. Just be happy with your life and make the best of it, I know it’s not the answer you are looking for, but it’s the best I can offer. Good luck – Sylv
Twitter: robsellen
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Hi Sylv,
Aye, you are a lucky one indeed…
I can see what you mean about your generation having something to answer for,but then again I am also glad it happened, it took the straight-jacket off youth in a way, for good and bad.
Before that teenagers are we know them didn’t exist.
I am all for flower power…. they were right then and more people should have listened.
As for me… fed up of waiting, gonna get it by doing something about it.
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Twitter: danalingga
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This article make me in deep thought and the result is that love is love which I never able to describe it with a word or some words.
And about woman, They make it too hard sometimes.
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Twitter: robsellen
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Won’t argue with that!
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I don’t agree LOL. Men are egoistics
We have excuses why we make it too hard 
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Twitter: robsellen
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Picking the wrong men
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As one of my songs suggest…Every one needs “Someone to say good morning or goodnight to”
Twitter: robsellen
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They certainly do…
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Twitter: kruby
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Well, I don’t know, Rob.
I for one, love being single. No one to tell me what to do or not do. No nagging, no having to cook him dinner or wash his socks, or whatever. I don’t need the hassle of some deadbeat or even worse, a guy who can’t handle that I make more money than he does. The worse are the little boys in a man’s body that hasn’t grown up yet and think the world revolvs around them. I can go where I want and do what I want and with whom I want. It’s great, especially when I have to hear my married friends complain about their spouses and all the cr@p that they have to put up with. No thanks.
I’m not anti-relationship, but unless some guy has something more to offer than what I can be/have/do myself, why bother with all their baggage?
One other thing, I think you can’t paint all women with the same brush (and that goes for men, too). If you are attracting into or are attracted to the same type of women, well then, why not try doing something else to attract a different type of woman into your life? You never know….
Karen
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Twitter: robsellen
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It’s great… to a point, I agree.
Not paint all women either, like I said in the post “many” not all of them
I am not attracting the same types, I am meaning more that English girls are different girls from other nationalities.
Thanks for that comment though, good to know you are happy single.
I am bored with it… 
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Twitter: rayjasper0211
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Want to know ladies from my country Rob? Im still single, pal, but i overview on the other way! Women is like having adventure, looking for someone who just fit in right for you, admittedly, been hurt a lot before, but i always get lesson to learn, just always hoping, that somebody could fill in for me.
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Twitter: robsellen
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It’s all lessons and learning in this game of life.
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Twitter: awilkes
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I was curious to find a Japanese woman for some reason and it stuck in my mind, and one day I married one.
I am really appreciative of the love she has for me. And she likewise I think. I used to tell her that I would do anything for her in a casual manner (I meant it) and I saw her eyes watering. Now I don’t need to say this kind of thing.
But, I do find it hard to only have the one partner for the rest of my life (I wouldn’t split up, but rather try to have my cake and eat it). There are so many great ladies out there that you meet every now and then. And being accepted by another woman seems to be an attractant towards other women. A kind of catch 22 situation for guys.
Rob, there are some amazingly nice English women, you can find some in Offices in Reading for example
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Twitter: robsellen
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I would actually prefer an eastern person I think.
Everything is different, the way they think about things is of real interest too.
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Twitter: awilkes
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Certainly, the interest of being different is a pull. I met a few Eastern ladies that I could easily fall for from Thailand, Nepal, India, Japan, Hong Kong etc. And I think they are low maintenance
I like the music of Bob Marley, No woman no cry. It’s definitely a very touching song to inspire men not to hurt the women. Love will surely work out when both parties are happy.
Twitter: robsellen
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It’s not just about the men who hurt women… you know, women hurt men too…
It’s also a truth that without women, men have an easier life… to a point… women can’t stay single like men can, that’s something I notice alot.
indeed it is! I am single for awhile now and I admit it is lonely at times and i miss the warmth. Still, maybe i’ll meet someone soon, maybe 2011 is my year!
Twitter: robsellen
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Hope it for you…
People always want what they don’t have…. Single people want freedom, single people want somebody to love.
The grass is always greener…
Twitter: robsellen
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So they “think” …